The greatest emotional and spiritual growth issue you will ever face has to do with what you think about yourself. The subject of personal identity is a vast topic. People identify themselves by their occupation, nationality, personal strengths and weaknesses, and so forth. But my focus on the topic of identity is on how to help you discover the full value of who you are as God - the Creator, designed you to be.
Your future depends on it—your relationships, your dreams and your joy!
We live in a culture where most people do not live loved, do not live valued—they lack a healthy sense of personal worth. When you enter a room full of people, how do you position yourself with respect to your own value within that room? Do you feel more important than everyone else, less important, or sandwiched somewhere in between? Perhaps it depends on the kind of people in the room? I would like to help you come to the place where you never feel underneath in any social environment.
I didn’t know it.
I found it.
I would love to show you how you can, too!
I tell people all the time: You will never go higher than what you think about yourself. Your personal self-worth factor is a filter, and through this filter you process every decision you make in life. Until the filter is changed, you will end up with the same outcome for your choices and decisions. Recently at a conference, I was teaching on having a healthy identity. I put on some yellow, dollar-store, sunglasses made for a kid, with orange lenses. I pointed out that everything I saw through this filter was orange. Your identity works the same way—how you see yourself taints everything you do and every choice you make.
You need to know, I am not talking about you drumming up a movie-star -type ego, laced with arrogance and cocky confidence. I am challenging you to become a person who knows your worth in God, and lives and enjoys the value He placed on you.
When you don’t know your true identity, you will be dominated by what I call - Emotional Tormentors (Which, I list here, but will expound upon later in this series):
Survival: From a young age, most people attempt to learn how to survive socially. They want to be liked and loved. Survival includes continual strategizing to avoid rejection and social opposition.
Comparison: People continually compare themselves with those around them, to people on TV and the movies, and images in their mind of who they would like to be.
Self-imprisoning: This happens when a boundary is created around a person in order to self-protect from abuse, rejection, social fears, or other affronts to self-worth. A safety prison is built-up and often people become what others expect them to be.
Shoulds: Counseling rooms are filled with people who live under the shoulds. I should do this, I should do that, and I shouldn’t do this or that. To do what you should do is not necessarily wrong, but trying to live up to what others expect, or what society expects, when it is not what God expects, will make a person a clone of someone else and a people-pleaser.
Take a journey to a wholesome identity and discover your worth. If you are ready, I’ve got some things for you that I know will change your life! Follow the articles this month to discover more about your identity in Christ.